Monday, August 13, 2012

"Hail, Holy Queen" A Prayer for Those in Deep Sorrow. Mourning Sarah Dean.

Today my daughter Carolan asked me to say the prayer "Hail, Holy Queen" for her--over the phone, as she drove from Portland, Oregon, to Kalispell, Montana. She had just found out that her great friend from the Montana Conservation Corps, Sarah Dean, had been suddenly killed Saturday, August 11th, in a collision near Gunnison, Colorado.

Sarah had been living in Crested Butte, Colorado, and we got to meet her last summer when we visited Carolan in Crested Butte and Salida. I felt a special link to Sarah through her mother, who was a student at St. Mary's College around the time I was a student at neighboring Notre Dame. My heart breaks for Sarah's mother and father, back near St. Louis, and her grandparents, who had lived in Crested Butte. And for her brother, her brokenhearted friends throughout the country, in Americorps, the Montana Conservation Corps, and all her friends in Crested Butte.

The "Hail, Holy Queen" (called "Salve Regina" in Latin) is not a prayer for modern sensibilities, it would seem. It is a prayer edged with despair and a deep sense of loss, a sense of exile, spoken from the "vale of tears." Here are the words of the prayer we said at the end of every rosary (which we said every night when I was a child):

Hail, Holy Queen,
Mother of Mercy,
Our life, our sweetness, and our hope.

To thee do we cry, poor banished children of Eve,
To thee do we send up our sighs,
Mourning and weeping in this valley of tears.

Turn, then, most gracious advocate,
thine eyes of mercy toward us,
and after this our exile,
Show unto us the blessed fruit of thy womb, Jesus.

O Clement, O Loving, O Sweet Virgin Mary. Amen.


Sarah's funeral and burial will be at the Queen of All Saints Catholic Church in Crested Butte this Friday, August 17th. She will be buried in one of the world's most beautiful spots, a place where Sarah's heart danced.

Here is the official obit:

Sarah Elizabeth Dean
July 20, 1982 - August 11, 2012

Sarah Elizabeth Dean was born in Gunnison, Colorado on July 20, 1982 to Jim and Barbara Dean. She was a glowing bundle of light, love and joy (and feisty spirit) from the moment she entered the world. Sarah died in a tragic car accident outside of Gunnison on August 11, 2012 while headed to her favorite place -- the great outdoors -- to go camping in Lake City with her beloved friend, Jill McCord, and pooches they so loved, Dozer and Koocha. Dozer, the fun-loving St. Bernard, and loving companion of Tyler Hammer, joined Sarah in the eternal outdoors and sunshine.

Sarah loved life to the fullest and loved all things Crested Butte where she spent a good portion of her young life with her grandparents, Jim and Sue Dean, or Granny and Pa as they were known to Sarah. Sarah and family (Mom, Dad and brother Jimmy) moved to Arkansas in the early 80's and this is where she would stay until she graduated from Fayetteville High School. Sarah attended college at the University of Arkansas and eventually got a degree in Classical Studies after years of enjoying life, travels, outdoors and returning to where her heart was -- Gunnison County. While in CB Sarah did as all locals did, worked too many jobs (Town of Mt. CB, Acme Liquor, Wine House, CBMR, CB Community School, etc. etc.) and was an avid outdoor woman who hiked, camped, skied, fished, and played as much as possible in the beautiful lands. Sarah loved gardening and cooking, putting love and light in everything she did. In 2010 Sarah did a stint with the Montana Conservation Corps as a crew leader and absolutely loved her time in Bob Marshall Wilderness area. Simply put -- Sarah enjoyed every minute she got to spend outside, whether for work or play.

Sarah is survived by a world that so loved her, as she gave freely and openly of her love to all she came into contact with. Sarah will be deeply missed by her grandparents, Bill and Mary Jane Duensing of Kansas City, Missouri; grandparents, Jim and Sue Dean, now of Cheyenne, Wyoming but formerly of Mt. Crested Butte, Colorado; parents Jim and Barbara Dean of University City, Missouri; brother Jimmy Dean and his loving wife, Lindsey and the apple of Sarah's eye, niece, Eliza of Dayton, Ohio; her companion and boyfriend, Tyler Hammer of Crested Butte; numerous aunts, uncles and cousins from every corner of the United States. There will be an empty place in the hearts of all who knew Sarah, but rest assured she will look over all she loved and shine down from the heavens until we meet her on the other side.

Pallbearers are Jimmy Dean, John Dean, Paul Dean, Tyler Hammer, Tyler Dean and Ericka Smith.

Memorials in Sarah's honor can be made to: Adaptive Sports Center of Crested Butte and Crested Butte Land Trust.

Services will be held at 1:00 p.m. on Friday, August 17th at Queen of All Saints Catholic Church in Crested Butte with graveside burial to follow at Crested Butte Cemetery (camp chairs welcomed for seating.) There will be a reception to follow at the church Parish House.

5 comments:

Elaine Felten said...

Thank you Mr. Coughlan for this post. I spent a lot of time getting to know Sarah through MCC and her loss has struck me hard. She was an amazing woman who knew what she wanted to do, and did it. She knew what she enjoyed and how to live life, and she did it. She will be greatly missed and I will not be able to look at the beautiful mountains in Montana with out thinking of the adventures we shared there. My heart goes out to her family and friends and may she find her final resting place in the outdoors that she loved so much. I miss you Sarah.
All of my love,
Elaine

Anonymous said...

Thank you for your heartfelt post. Sarah will be greatly missed my many. I feel lucky to have gotten the chance to know Sarah. We worked together this summer and shared many beautiful moments in the gardens of Crested Butte. We will forever be reminded of Sarah in all her beautiful gardens. May her family find peace in the warmth of her memories.
XO my friend,
Megan

View from the North Coast said...

Amen, amen!!

Ericka S. said...

From the bottom of my heart, thank you for this beautiful post. Sarah was my cousin and the most beautiful person I will ever know. The past 10 days have been filled with pain and despair, but musings like this bring some of her light back to our family. Much love,
Ericka Smith

Unknown said...

We struggle together, and bring each other solace and hope. I thank you from the bottom of my heart.

-Tyler